After every jam or session or bboy gathering, the question always seems to be "What are you guys doin?","Is there something happenin?" and 9 times out of 10 there is. Be it getting a cheap dinner/breakfast, running to the liquor store and hanging out at someone crib, going out to the club or everyone just heading their separate ways.. There are things that should be noted
We'll start with what aggravates me the most out of these
GOING OUT TO EAT
Like most people, you have probably never worked in a service industry in your life and don't understand the whole "why's it taking so long to get my fuckin food?" Well boys and girls, here's how food industry works. The host seats you, they let the server know they have a table. The server comes over takes your guys orders (if its drinks, like water or soda they control that) they give the food orders to the kitchen, who may be high or pissed off that its 11 o'clock at night and they have about 15 orders of dennys pancakes and sausages that just came when when they were all relaxed and just finished cleaning up, if your ordering alcohol (dennys doesnt have this but again i dont know where you eat after the battle) the bartender gets that order and the waitress is at the whim of the kitchen and the bartender. When those guys get off their booties and get the orders made they give it to the waitress who brings it to your table. 9/10 all the waitress does is attempt to keep your table happy until the food comes, and if your food is messed up for cold gets a manager to remedy the situation. Everyone is happy with their meal and gets the check. here's where everything gets a little tricky
(for this example we will use 5 people)
Seat 1
1 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 22 sausages @ .25 each (their total is 8.25)
Seat 2
2 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 2 sausages @ .25 each (their total is 3.25)
Seat 3
1 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00(their total is 2.75)
Seat 4
4 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 5 sausages @ .25 each(their total is 12.25)
Seat 5
1 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 22 sausages @ .25 each(their total is 8.25)
OVERALL TOTAL BILL IS
$34.75
+2.78 (lets say its 8% tax)
$$$$$$37.53
everyone has to pay their own bill, +tip. If you don't have enough money to buy your food AND tip, someone at your table has to then cover your cost. So now instead of lets say each person putting in $7 +tip, 3 people put in $7 & 1 person puts in $14 now doubling their own personal cost, BEFORE ADDING THE TIP. now financially you have just screwed someone in your group and doubled their cost because they are taking care of you expecting you to pay them back or atleast REALIZE what they have done for you. now not only do they have to put in their own tip, they have to put in your tip. so instead of $7 they are now paying 17-19 dollars for both of your meals +tips. This weekend i went out to dinner with about 5 people, my meal was 20 dollars, 1 person paid their meal in full (THANK YOU) 3/4 of the rest of the people only had barely enough money for their meal sticking me with the left over cost of their meals and the tips. so a meal and tip that should have cost me $20 bucks now just cost me $40. So if you don't have the money to eat AND tip, don't order anything besides water or something really cheap. Ask one of your friends to spot you some cash so you can eat. AND PAY THEM BACK, remember to say please and thank you, show appreciation. That $12 meal you just ordered, your buddy had to work an hour and a half just so you can enjoy that food you scarfed down in 32 seconds.
Tipping-General rule of thumb is to double the tax for tip, but again that barely makes it worth while for the server.*IF THE SERVER WAS GOOD, don't be greedy, give them a little extra they deserve it**and the flip side** IF THEY SUCKED TIP THEM JUST THE MINIMUM** The servers tips don't go directly to the server, Servers make about 2.75-4.25 per hour depending on business establishment. 1-5% OF THEIR SALES go to paying the hosts and bussers (so if they sell $100 worth of food, they have to tip out the host/bussing station $1-$5 regardless of how much money they were actually tipped) If you don't tip the server, the busser, and the host don't get any money either because again in service industries pay is based off what people deem we deserve.
I can bet we've all gone out with our boyfriends or girlfriends and had a 100 bill and only left 5-10 bucks as a tip. That server now doesn't make a penny off of your table. They now just busted their ass for an hour making sure you had a good dining experience and are now going home with barely 3 dollars an hour because you thought since you spent 100 they were making minimum wage. Since their wages are generally cash based the businesses DO NOT have to reimburse them with minimum wage since the government has such a hard time baby sitting who's declaring their cash tips correctly on their income taxes. If one of your friends can't afford a dinner of 3 dollars, i think it wouldn't hurt you to offer some of your food to them, there's ways to do it without making them look like broke ass bastards. "hey man, i'm full, you wanna eat the rest of this?"
GOING TO THE LIQUOR STORE
All i really have to say about this is don't let one person buy all of the alcohol,mixers,cups.If someone is buying the alcohol, buy the mixers, don't be stingy and don't be rude. alcohol isn't cheap and odds are the person buying the alcohol isn't buying a bottle for everybody so make sure to chip in for supplies. Help carry the stuff. and lastly IF YOU AREN'T 21 DON'T GO IN THE STORE, stay outside out of sight or in the car out of sight. If you don't have your ID there is a very high chance NO ONE will be leaving with alcohol. Be respectful of someones house, ask if they want you to take your shoes off at the front, if you aren't sure its acceptable for you to open their cupboards and rummage for any and all crumbs of food, ASK or OFFER to order a pizza. Again, someone is putting you up right now and doing something out of the goodness of their heart, don't take advantage of their kindness.
GOING OUT TO THE CLUB
Try to pick a place that is 18+ if possible, it sucks when your out with your crew and planned on hanging with them all weekend to find out they're all going to a 21+ only and you gotta find something to do for a few hours or go chill at someones house. If that's what you had in mind for a crew outing, that's not a really family oriented crew. I grew up (personally) around adults and very family oriented people, if they were with someone who couldn't get into club A, or eat at restaurant B for ANY reason, then they wouldn't go there. WHY YOU ASK? I said the same thing and realized this, if your with your friends or family, it doesn't matter where you are, it will be fun and memorable. i cant tell you how many times i went to go out to a club with people and we ended up chilling in a parking lot talking for hours and genuinely had a great time. *NOTE- this isnt necessarily true for all events, if a few people want to go out and a few people don't, then that's cool and you guys can part ways. multiple times i didn't want to go out to a club after and i just chilled at someones house and watched t.v.* REMEMBER you guys are a CREW and if someone in your crew isn't accepted someplace, how good of a friend are you to ditch them and say peace? it hurts your friends feelings a lot wither they say it or not to have your family ditch you because they want to get drunk and f*ck bitches.
Breaking in the club, DON'T DO IT (my personal feelings on it) i was just breaking for the last 4-8 hours at a jam with people that respect what i do, i am not just some monkey that jumps around for the meat grinder music box. When i go out, the last thing i really want to do is break dance for a bunch of drunk people that are just going to jump in my circle and mess up my flow and potentially start a fight, cause lets be real... how pissed do you get when your breaking in a cypher and someone walks through your zone? add alcohol and tough guy attitudes, doesn't really take a genius to know that could spell some pretty bad trouble for some people. ****NOTE**** If you've got a friend from out of town who breaks and didn't get down at a jam or you guys went out specifically to dance and didn't hit up a jam that day, i think its completely acceptable to go out and break. If your friend has a good time, then being a show off isn't such a big deal.
HEADING YOUR SEPARATE WAYS
Also a very simple thing, if you were just chilling with people or talking to them, be polite and say bye it was nice meeting you even if it wasn't. Being nice to people will get you much further then not. If i just spent a few hours with some people and they didn't slap me up (shake my hand/ say bye in some form) it'd leave a bad taste in my mouth about them as a person.If i had paid them as a judge or expo battle and their crew wasn't polite to me, it'd make me less incline to invite them out or hire them again.**SIDE NOTE THAT SHOULD BE CONSIDERED**If someone's girlfriend/wife/family is there, make sure to be extra polite to them, DON'T cross the line of being flirtatious or making gestures that could be misconstrued AND ESPECIALLY BEING RUDE. Remember where you are, if someone was doing those things to your girlfriend/wife/family would you care? At the same token don't treat your guests like that either.Treat people how you want to be treated because the next weekend it could be your gf/wife/family that someone is doing that too. treat people with respect and they will return it to you. I know personally that I've had an after party with some pretty big named bboys and they thought cause they had traveled the world as bboys that they could do/act however they wanted, i am by no means a world class bboy, but i am a world class person, and i don't care how many members of your crew are in my house or my apt or how big your name is, if you step out of line I'll make sure you and your crew knows it and will NOT step out of line again. So bottom line, make sure to be respectful to everyone you run into.
final words, this comes from my high school wrestling coach Tony Policare and holds true - "you should always leave a space better then when you entered it. There's no reason to go someplace and leave it trashed. your an adult and a wo/man. There are only 2 rules, don't do something that would disrespect yourself, or your family"
We'll start with what aggravates me the most out of these
GOING OUT TO EAT
Like most people, you have probably never worked in a service industry in your life and don't understand the whole "why's it taking so long to get my fuckin food?" Well boys and girls, here's how food industry works. The host seats you, they let the server know they have a table. The server comes over takes your guys orders (if its drinks, like water or soda they control that) they give the food orders to the kitchen, who may be high or pissed off that its 11 o'clock at night and they have about 15 orders of dennys pancakes and sausages that just came when when they were all relaxed and just finished cleaning up, if your ordering alcohol (dennys doesnt have this but again i dont know where you eat after the battle) the bartender gets that order and the waitress is at the whim of the kitchen and the bartender. When those guys get off their booties and get the orders made they give it to the waitress who brings it to your table. 9/10 all the waitress does is attempt to keep your table happy until the food comes, and if your food is messed up for cold gets a manager to remedy the situation. Everyone is happy with their meal and gets the check. here's where everything gets a little tricky
(for this example we will use 5 people)
Seat 1
1 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 22 sausages @ .25 each (their total is 8.25)
Seat 2
2 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 2 sausages @ .25 each (their total is 3.25)
Seat 3
1 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00(their total is 2.75)
Seat 4
4 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 5 sausages @ .25 each(their total is 12.25)
Seat 5
1 waffle @ 2.75, 1 water @ 0.00, 22 sausages @ .25 each(their total is 8.25)
OVERALL TOTAL BILL IS
$34.75
+2.78 (lets say its 8% tax)
$$$$$$37.53
everyone has to pay their own bill, +tip. If you don't have enough money to buy your food AND tip, someone at your table has to then cover your cost. So now instead of lets say each person putting in $7 +tip, 3 people put in $7 & 1 person puts in $14 now doubling their own personal cost, BEFORE ADDING THE TIP. now financially you have just screwed someone in your group and doubled their cost because they are taking care of you expecting you to pay them back or atleast REALIZE what they have done for you. now not only do they have to put in their own tip, they have to put in your tip. so instead of $7 they are now paying 17-19 dollars for both of your meals +tips. This weekend i went out to dinner with about 5 people, my meal was 20 dollars, 1 person paid their meal in full (THANK YOU) 3/4 of the rest of the people only had barely enough money for their meal sticking me with the left over cost of their meals and the tips. so a meal and tip that should have cost me $20 bucks now just cost me $40. So if you don't have the money to eat AND tip, don't order anything besides water or something really cheap. Ask one of your friends to spot you some cash so you can eat. AND PAY THEM BACK, remember to say please and thank you, show appreciation. That $12 meal you just ordered, your buddy had to work an hour and a half just so you can enjoy that food you scarfed down in 32 seconds.
Tipping-General rule of thumb is to double the tax for tip, but again that barely makes it worth while for the server.*IF THE SERVER WAS GOOD, don't be greedy, give them a little extra they deserve it**and the flip side** IF THEY SUCKED TIP THEM JUST THE MINIMUM** The servers tips don't go directly to the server, Servers make about 2.75-4.25 per hour depending on business establishment. 1-5% OF THEIR SALES go to paying the hosts and bussers (so if they sell $100 worth of food, they have to tip out the host/bussing station $1-$5 regardless of how much money they were actually tipped) If you don't tip the server, the busser, and the host don't get any money either because again in service industries pay is based off what people deem we deserve.
I can bet we've all gone out with our boyfriends or girlfriends and had a 100 bill and only left 5-10 bucks as a tip. That server now doesn't make a penny off of your table. They now just busted their ass for an hour making sure you had a good dining experience and are now going home with barely 3 dollars an hour because you thought since you spent 100 they were making minimum wage. Since their wages are generally cash based the businesses DO NOT have to reimburse them with minimum wage since the government has such a hard time baby sitting who's declaring their cash tips correctly on their income taxes. If one of your friends can't afford a dinner of 3 dollars, i think it wouldn't hurt you to offer some of your food to them, there's ways to do it without making them look like broke ass bastards. "hey man, i'm full, you wanna eat the rest of this?"
GOING TO THE LIQUOR STORE
All i really have to say about this is don't let one person buy all of the alcohol,mixers,cups.If someone is buying the alcohol, buy the mixers, don't be stingy and don't be rude. alcohol isn't cheap and odds are the person buying the alcohol isn't buying a bottle for everybody so make sure to chip in for supplies. Help carry the stuff. and lastly IF YOU AREN'T 21 DON'T GO IN THE STORE, stay outside out of sight or in the car out of sight. If you don't have your ID there is a very high chance NO ONE will be leaving with alcohol. Be respectful of someones house, ask if they want you to take your shoes off at the front, if you aren't sure its acceptable for you to open their cupboards and rummage for any and all crumbs of food, ASK or OFFER to order a pizza. Again, someone is putting you up right now and doing something out of the goodness of their heart, don't take advantage of their kindness.
GOING OUT TO THE CLUB
Try to pick a place that is 18+ if possible, it sucks when your out with your crew and planned on hanging with them all weekend to find out they're all going to a 21+ only and you gotta find something to do for a few hours or go chill at someones house. If that's what you had in mind for a crew outing, that's not a really family oriented crew. I grew up (personally) around adults and very family oriented people, if they were with someone who couldn't get into club A, or eat at restaurant B for ANY reason, then they wouldn't go there. WHY YOU ASK? I said the same thing and realized this, if your with your friends or family, it doesn't matter where you are, it will be fun and memorable. i cant tell you how many times i went to go out to a club with people and we ended up chilling in a parking lot talking for hours and genuinely had a great time. *NOTE- this isnt necessarily true for all events, if a few people want to go out and a few people don't, then that's cool and you guys can part ways. multiple times i didn't want to go out to a club after and i just chilled at someones house and watched t.v.* REMEMBER you guys are a CREW and if someone in your crew isn't accepted someplace, how good of a friend are you to ditch them and say peace? it hurts your friends feelings a lot wither they say it or not to have your family ditch you because they want to get drunk and f*ck bitches.
Breaking in the club, DON'T DO IT (my personal feelings on it) i was just breaking for the last 4-8 hours at a jam with people that respect what i do, i am not just some monkey that jumps around for the meat grinder music box. When i go out, the last thing i really want to do is break dance for a bunch of drunk people that are just going to jump in my circle and mess up my flow and potentially start a fight, cause lets be real... how pissed do you get when your breaking in a cypher and someone walks through your zone? add alcohol and tough guy attitudes, doesn't really take a genius to know that could spell some pretty bad trouble for some people. ****NOTE**** If you've got a friend from out of town who breaks and didn't get down at a jam or you guys went out specifically to dance and didn't hit up a jam that day, i think its completely acceptable to go out and break. If your friend has a good time, then being a show off isn't such a big deal.
HEADING YOUR SEPARATE WAYS
Also a very simple thing, if you were just chilling with people or talking to them, be polite and say bye it was nice meeting you even if it wasn't. Being nice to people will get you much further then not. If i just spent a few hours with some people and they didn't slap me up (shake my hand/ say bye in some form) it'd leave a bad taste in my mouth about them as a person.If i had paid them as a judge or expo battle and their crew wasn't polite to me, it'd make me less incline to invite them out or hire them again.**SIDE NOTE THAT SHOULD BE CONSIDERED**If someone's girlfriend/wife/family is there, make sure to be extra polite to them, DON'T cross the line of being flirtatious or making gestures that could be misconstrued AND ESPECIALLY BEING RUDE. Remember where you are, if someone was doing those things to your girlfriend/wife/family would you care? At the same token don't treat your guests like that either.Treat people how you want to be treated because the next weekend it could be your gf/wife/family that someone is doing that too. treat people with respect and they will return it to you. I know personally that I've had an after party with some pretty big named bboys and they thought cause they had traveled the world as bboys that they could do/act however they wanted, i am by no means a world class bboy, but i am a world class person, and i don't care how many members of your crew are in my house or my apt or how big your name is, if you step out of line I'll make sure you and your crew knows it and will NOT step out of line again. So bottom line, make sure to be respectful to everyone you run into.
final words, this comes from my high school wrestling coach Tony Policare and holds true - "you should always leave a space better then when you entered it. There's no reason to go someplace and leave it trashed. your an adult and a wo/man. There are only 2 rules, don't do something that would disrespect yourself, or your family"
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