Etiquette.
Respect.
Empathy
Many bboys are not a bunch of retarded fucks, many of them are very intelligent human beings that range from being salesman to street hitters to doctors. We all grew up from different paths and times, we all have different ideas on how we want to break and how would like to be percieved in the scene. but what we should remember is that we all started somewhere. look at cico, the end, born, physixc, junior. They didnt start out dynamos and neither did you. Think of the first practice you had, the first battle, the first cypher. are you proud of how you did then? would you want to rep like that your whole life? the answer is probably not... you had to have worked to get to a higher level from then untill now be it your a little smoother or stronger or smarter or whatever it is. You are no different then that first year breaker over there your callin wack and a peice of shit besides you have more time invested. That however does not speak for their heart.
When you see someone entering a battle, its not because its their first day, its because they feel like they want to be a true bboy, they want to prove to everyone thats been doubting them that they can do it, or their crew signs them up,or any other reason.. you dont know their personal bboy career from day 1 to the jam. look at people like atomic goofball, he reasonably should not be able to move but he wanted something bad enough and went for it.[ I dont know hiw full story so i won't include it in here atm, if he sees this and thinks itd be beneficial to have his story here, with his permission i will add it] they might be looking for a new path and this is their test for themselves to see if this is something that they want to do for the rest of their lives because lets be real, not too many people that call themselves bboys can live without being involved in the scene in some way. i personally have a friend who will remain nameless [again dont have permission to use his name or story so ill emit one] but for the sake of the story we shall call Humphry. Humphry was always getting into a lot of trouble and his mother had no idea what to do with him, she was a single parent and the only thing she could see was her son ending up in jail so she asked me to teach him how to breakdance. Humphry came for a little bit but after badgering from other bboys stopped showing up to practice because he wasnt there to be told he sucked, or he was doing everything wrong, or that if he wasnt going to be doing it YOUR way then they wouldnt help him at all. he was there because he wanted to be. due to these peoples actions Humphry stopped showing up and started getting in trouble again breaking into peoples houses, dealing heavy drugs, and fighting over nothing because he felt he had to prove something to someone. after a few weeks of getting in trouble he reached back out to me which is more of a chance then most people will give a group who belittles him infront of a new group of potential friends and people who clearly havent accepted him. its OUR duty to give people who want to learn a safe enviornment and a friendly enviornment for them to learn in.
You dont know peoples full stories and if you want the bboy scene to continue to grow you need to give them the same respect that you want given to you, the same kid that your calling a fuckup and a waste of time is NOT a waste of time, you need to find a way that best coaches that person if you decide to take on a roll of instructing bboys at any time. your goal is to have them express themselves, learn and show loyalty, and be apart of a family if theyre in your battle crew,session crew, or just one of your friends friends that is chillen with you.
My last thing i have to say about this subject is this, people come from all over, with different stories, some have good pasts others have horrific pasts and every where inbetween. you should give people the time of day and treat them well untill you have a reason not to treat them well.
THIS PAST WEEKEND I THREW A JAM, afterwards we were all out eating at dennys and we had all recieved our meals (must have been 10 of us) and 1 bboy couldnt afford a 5 dollar dinner, he had spent his money on gas to get to and from the event in a carpool, and the entrance fee, and bought some water during the event. and his own crew just let him sit there without food watching all of us eat. Again, i dont care where your from, if you have the ability to influence someones life for the better you should do it, i'm not the type of person who will let you go cold or hungry if i have the ability to do so. After i bought him food and had it rushed out, i asked the people he was with wtf was up because thats bullshit, if your traveling with someone and theyre down on their luck whats 5,10,200 dollars to find out what a person is worth. If you spend 200 on someone to find out their a peice of shit, it happens, and you know from then on WHY they arent good human beings and you have a justifiable reason to treat them a certain way from that point on, but for 5 dollars for someone that your around (know them or not) their gratitude for that 5 dollars, breakfast in the morning, or a shirt/letting them barrow your headspin hat or shorts show you what their worth. Money,being a thug bboy, being the illest should take a backseat to being a good person and giving back to a community that has given back to you.
Again, i am taking a 3rd grade lesson and telling you, you dont know everyones stories, their pasts, or their mental status, how they were brought up, or any of that. But you do know how you were raised and what your past is. and i'll leave you with this, my old man told me this all the time growing up and i feel everyone forgets this once in awhile
"you cant control what others do son, what your friends do, how they act, what they say... but you CAN control what YOU do. be your own man and do what you know in your mind and heart is right. if the worst fault you have is being too giving... well i think thats a fault anyone would be blessed to live with"
Respect.
Empathy
Many bboys are not a bunch of retarded fucks, many of them are very intelligent human beings that range from being salesman to street hitters to doctors. We all grew up from different paths and times, we all have different ideas on how we want to break and how would like to be percieved in the scene. but what we should remember is that we all started somewhere. look at cico, the end, born, physixc, junior. They didnt start out dynamos and neither did you. Think of the first practice you had, the first battle, the first cypher. are you proud of how you did then? would you want to rep like that your whole life? the answer is probably not... you had to have worked to get to a higher level from then untill now be it your a little smoother or stronger or smarter or whatever it is. You are no different then that first year breaker over there your callin wack and a peice of shit besides you have more time invested. That however does not speak for their heart.
When you see someone entering a battle, its not because its their first day, its because they feel like they want to be a true bboy, they want to prove to everyone thats been doubting them that they can do it, or their crew signs them up,or any other reason.. you dont know their personal bboy career from day 1 to the jam. look at people like atomic goofball, he reasonably should not be able to move but he wanted something bad enough and went for it.[ I dont know hiw full story so i won't include it in here atm, if he sees this and thinks itd be beneficial to have his story here, with his permission i will add it] they might be looking for a new path and this is their test for themselves to see if this is something that they want to do for the rest of their lives because lets be real, not too many people that call themselves bboys can live without being involved in the scene in some way. i personally have a friend who will remain nameless [again dont have permission to use his name or story so ill emit one] but for the sake of the story we shall call Humphry. Humphry was always getting into a lot of trouble and his mother had no idea what to do with him, she was a single parent and the only thing she could see was her son ending up in jail so she asked me to teach him how to breakdance. Humphry came for a little bit but after badgering from other bboys stopped showing up to practice because he wasnt there to be told he sucked, or he was doing everything wrong, or that if he wasnt going to be doing it YOUR way then they wouldnt help him at all. he was there because he wanted to be. due to these peoples actions Humphry stopped showing up and started getting in trouble again breaking into peoples houses, dealing heavy drugs, and fighting over nothing because he felt he had to prove something to someone. after a few weeks of getting in trouble he reached back out to me which is more of a chance then most people will give a group who belittles him infront of a new group of potential friends and people who clearly havent accepted him. its OUR duty to give people who want to learn a safe enviornment and a friendly enviornment for them to learn in.
You dont know peoples full stories and if you want the bboy scene to continue to grow you need to give them the same respect that you want given to you, the same kid that your calling a fuckup and a waste of time is NOT a waste of time, you need to find a way that best coaches that person if you decide to take on a roll of instructing bboys at any time. your goal is to have them express themselves, learn and show loyalty, and be apart of a family if theyre in your battle crew,session crew, or just one of your friends friends that is chillen with you.
My last thing i have to say about this subject is this, people come from all over, with different stories, some have good pasts others have horrific pasts and every where inbetween. you should give people the time of day and treat them well untill you have a reason not to treat them well.
THIS PAST WEEKEND I THREW A JAM, afterwards we were all out eating at dennys and we had all recieved our meals (must have been 10 of us) and 1 bboy couldnt afford a 5 dollar dinner, he had spent his money on gas to get to and from the event in a carpool, and the entrance fee, and bought some water during the event. and his own crew just let him sit there without food watching all of us eat. Again, i dont care where your from, if you have the ability to influence someones life for the better you should do it, i'm not the type of person who will let you go cold or hungry if i have the ability to do so. After i bought him food and had it rushed out, i asked the people he was with wtf was up because thats bullshit, if your traveling with someone and theyre down on their luck whats 5,10,200 dollars to find out what a person is worth. If you spend 200 on someone to find out their a peice of shit, it happens, and you know from then on WHY they arent good human beings and you have a justifiable reason to treat them a certain way from that point on, but for 5 dollars for someone that your around (know them or not) their gratitude for that 5 dollars, breakfast in the morning, or a shirt/letting them barrow your headspin hat or shorts show you what their worth. Money,being a thug bboy, being the illest should take a backseat to being a good person and giving back to a community that has given back to you.
Again, i am taking a 3rd grade lesson and telling you, you dont know everyones stories, their pasts, or their mental status, how they were brought up, or any of that. But you do know how you were raised and what your past is. and i'll leave you with this, my old man told me this all the time growing up and i feel everyone forgets this once in awhile
"you cant control what others do son, what your friends do, how they act, what they say... but you CAN control what YOU do. be your own man and do what you know in your mind and heart is right. if the worst fault you have is being too giving... well i think thats a fault anyone would be blessed to live with"
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